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Name Lisa
Joined 561 days ago
Bethenny Frankel and Ricky Gervais
561 days ago

Dear Bethenny (and Ellen): Listening to you talk with Ellen yesterday about your divorce gave me hope that I will be okay, and that I am not alone. It has been almost two years since my divorce, but I still have strong feelings of failure, coupled with lots of anger. I devoted the last 30 years of my life to trying to be a good wife and mother. I have never cried so much in my life - it is as if the most important person to me in my life has died. I lost everything that meant the world to me (my home, my lifetime partner)....I am 50 years old, financially struggling, and think what man is going to want me now. If my own husband didn't want me, then who will? We could have made things work if he had kept his pants zipped and resisted temptation. I thought I could get over the affair, and make things work - I tried really hard for 12 years, but I always felt like he was thinking of the other woman, and could not seem to please him no matter how hard I tried. I simply gave up. He is quite happy with his new life.....I have been told that I am a strong woman for doing what I did, but I do not feel strong at all. I have lost all of my self esteem, and every day is a struggle. It is so discouraging to hear of so many marriages falling apart, and how people take for granted one's love. I don't think my broken heart will ever heal, and I am scared to love again. Thank you for sharing your personal feelings on national television, and for giving me hope. Lisa