Aw! I wish she wasn't afraid! I've had four. My third was my best pregnancy and birth ever. So much so, three days later I said, "I could totally do this again!" You have to be totally knowledgeable about what your capable of and what your rights are as a mother giving birth. I had a doula and made out a birth plan so I think having more control gave me the best outcome. I was laughing and crying when my baby came. The crying was just a hormonal thing and not from pain at all. So happy for her.